- When did you first find out that you’d be a parent? How did you feel?
I first found out that I was going to be a parent when I was 19 years old. My hubs and I had only been together about a month at that time. We were a little wild and didn’t have much regard for anything when we first met. Let me just tell you that going back to college and having a long distance relationship was hard enough. Finding out that I was pregnant a month after that was a hard one to swallow. I went through all the options in my head, including abortion. Gasp! I hardly knew the person that was going to be the father of my first child, but I made the decision that I was going to keep the baby regardless of whether he stuck around or not.
Turns out, he was way involved and we moved in together when I came back home from the fall semester of college. He went to all the birthing classes with me and was an amazing caregiver when I got too fat to even shave my own legs! He did it 🙂 I would not change anything now that I look back it.
- Can you describe the moment when you saw your child for the first time?
The moment I saw my son for the first time was the most overwhelming feeling I had had in my whole life. It was amazing to think that he was half me and half my hubs. We now have a daughter together as well and the feeling was exactly the same. You are wondering for nine whole months who they are going to look like more or what features they will take after from you or your significant other. The feeling is really an indescribable one.
- How has being a parent changed you?
Being a parent changed me for the better. Women have to settle down right away when they find out they are pregnant. If they were doing anything harmful to their bodies all of that has to cease. You kind of do a 180 of sorts if you were not used to thinking about anyone but yourself. Men, on the other hand, have a little longer to adjust to the lifestyle. They are not the ones that are carrying another life inside of them. My hubs did not calm down until I was about seven months pregnant. Then is when I think reality hit because we were getting the crib and going to birthing classes.
- What are your dreams for your children?
My dreams are only for my children’s futures to be bright. I want them to have the best out of life. That is what my parent’s provided for me. No matter how little we had at the time my parents would rather eat frank and beans and let us have the gourmet meal. I feel like I would sacrifice anything for my children. My hubs did not have the best childhood and so I know watching him with the kids, it is like he is trying to make up for what he never had.
- Do you remember when your last child left home for good?
Neither of my children are old enough to leave home by themselves! My son is only 4 and my daughter is 6 months. They have a while ahead of them before they are ready to venture out into the world on their own. I will prepare them the best that I can and hope that they use that knowledge and carry it with them. I will probably be very lonely when my children leave for good. I will not know how to control myself, not cleaning up after them, and not cooking for four. My son will be leaving the house to go to college when my daughter is entering high school. I will get to experience everything twice right after each other.
- Do you have any favorite stories about your kids?
Unless there was a time that they were just driving me absolutely crazy (example would be crying for no reason, that’s what I can’t stand…that and whining) then I would say that every moment with my kids is a favorite. They always are doing something that makes me smile. Even when my son is doing something he knows he is not supposed to…the look of when he gets caught melts me. I will be a sad woman when my children move on and get into relationships of their own and down the road have children. But that just means more favorite memories to be made!
What is something that you would want to share from any of these questions with me?!
Spill your heart about your kiddos 🙂