Terrible Twos is a thing. Everyone warns you about it. They let you know that you are going to be in for the ride of your life when your little one turns two. Why then do they not warn you about the “threenager” stage? This is when your toddler has found their independence. They think that they can do anything and everything. It’s weird because with my son, this topic never was discussed. Maybe he didn’t become as much of a threenager as my daughter is now, so we just didn’t pay it any mind. My daughter though is everything you could fear when you hear that word. Threenager. It equals a 3-year old that thinks that they are already 13. Their attitude is unmatched and some days it seems like they can be more stubborn than you when trying to get their way. Let me tell you that until you have experienced one of these threenagers, you will never understand what a parent is talking about that describes one.
Here are a few signs that you may be living with a threenager.
1. She decides that she needs “coffee milk” as soon as she wakes up. Why do you need coffee? Because I’m a big girl, that’s why.
2. When you tell them something and you hear a typical phrase like “I don’t”, “No, it’s not” or something of the like. They know it all.
3. They can’t decide whether they want to be a princess, batman or some other fantasy character more than the other today. You can’t help them decide either, because you’re always wrong.
4. You ask them what they want to eat and suddenly they want nothing. You get something to eat and they want all of it. SO you give them some and they refuse to touch it because they are not “stealing” it from you.
5. They want to watch Mickey, Frozen, and 101 Dalmatians all at the same time because this IS possible.
There are many other things that a threenager does that will just make you want to stress out because face it, you were not ready for this 10 years early. Threenagers are persistant. They will continually say the same thing over and over again in an attempt to get you to change your answer that you gave them the first time. It can be relentless. You will want to give up, throw in the towel and just say “Do whatever! I am so over this!”. BUT DON’T. The moment you do this little tiny monster that is inside will come crawling out and take over your life.
You may start to get worn thin by all the fights, the tantrums, the “I wants” and of course what they don’t want. You may be screaming inside and wondering what you did to end up with a threenager in your house, but just know there is someone just a few houses down dealing with the same thing.
The battles will be many and the victories may seem like few. Pick some that you don’t mind that they win. Make sure that you stick to your guns on things that are a firm no-no.
You can do this. I’m proof. When will this end? No one knows, but I will continue the fight.